Saturday, June 10, 2006

For Men Only

For all of you guys who are married, I HIGHLY recommend this book. A friend (thanks DBoats) gave it to me a month ago and I finished it while on vacation. It is a sequel to the book “For Women Only” that my wife read several months earlier. Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn wrote the book based upon survey results from thousands of women to help men understand the inner lives of women and consequently, how to love them better. True, books like this tend to make generalizations, but all one needs to do is sort out those generalizations which don’t apply to your relationship. Here are some of the quotes that in many cases blew my mind!!!

  • Women’s “thought lives are almost like busy computers with multiple windows open and running all at once."
  • 95 percent of women feel that a reasonable solution would not solve their problem.
  • Instead of filtering out her feelings to concentrate on the problem, we need to practice filtering out the problem so we can concentrate on her feelings about it.
  • You’re not just the guy who shares her space. You’re her most important mirror.
It is a quick and easy read that is worth your time. The data is relevant for today’s relationships and is also written from a Biblical worldview. Read it!

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I suggest all married couples read their respective books and TALK to each other about the revelations. You will not be disappointed. Jboats

Scott Sterner said...

Good recommendation JBoats. I know the "female version" was also very helpful for our marriage (thanks to you). Going through it together would maximize the experience and make serving one another in love mutually gratifying.

Julie said...

As it happens, I just finished "For Women Only." I'd add that it's pretty good stuff if you're in a dating relationship too. ;-) julie